Chapter 5: Marital Sexuality and Fertility (James M Harper and Leslie Feinauer)


Chapter 5: Marital sexuality and fertility James M Harper and Leslie Feinauer

This chapter starts out with an example of a conversation between a teen and her mom.

13-year-old:  "Mom, is sex better than candy?"
Mom: "Oh yes, dear, with your husband in an eternal marriage, sex is far better than candy."

She establishes the parameters of a healthy and enjoyable sexual relationship with that answer, of being best in an eternal union between husband and wife.

Marital sexuality serves a purpose:
  1. Becoming one
          * Symbolizes the tie between God and his creations
          * Sex is considered the most holy of human endeavors in Judaism
          * Elder Holland said that sexual union is a welding physical blending, symbol of total union

 2. Connection with God

     * Sexual union between husband and wife is considered a sacrament

 3. Strengthening bonds
     
     * Emotional and spiritual bonds are both strengthened

 4. Procreation

     *Continuing generations
     * Foundation of the bridge between ancestors and progenitors


What I like about this chapter is that it gives a list of beliefs that promote positive marital sexuality.

Good enough sex approach is that between 60-85% of the time it is good.  Emotional attachment to each other is the most important part of this.

When to have children and how many to have is between husband and wife and the Lord. 
  1. Marital sexual relationship is symbolic of working together as we and us instead of individually.
  2. To express love to each other and bind together.
  3. To provide physical bodies.


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