Chapter 10: Parenting with love, limits, and latitude: Proclamation principles and supportive scholarship


Chapter 10: Parenting with love, limits, and latitude: Proclamation principles and supportive scholarship by Craig H Hart, Lloyd D Newell, and Julie H Haupt
This chapter shared great information on the styles of parenting. I especially loved some of the quotes from past prophets of the church:
"Parents should never drive their children, but lead them along, giving them knowledge as their minds are prepared to receive it. Chastening may be necessary betimes, but parents should govern their children by faith rather than by the rod, leading them kindly by good example into all truth and holiness."
                                                                                                                    ~Brigham Young

“I will here say to parents, that kind words and loving actions toward children will subdue their uneducated nature a great deal better than the rod, or, in other words, than physical punishment.” 

                                                                                                                     ~Brigham Young

“I have never accepted the principle of ‘spare the rod and spoil the child.’ . . . Children don’t need beating. They need love and encouragement.”
                                         
                                                                                                ~President Gordon B. Hinckley 

I would suggest learning all you can about the differences between coercive parenting, permissive parenting, authoritative parenting. This will arm you will a wealth of information to avoid making as many natural man mistakes when raising children.

It is so important to remember we are to lead, guide, and walk beside our children.  While we are to teach them and prepare them for life, we must realize there is so much we can learn from them while doing this. If we allow it, parenting will teaches us to become more like Heavenly Father.

 Here is a fun quiz that helps assess your parenting style from a webiste by Active Parenting Publishers:

 https://activeparenting.com/for-parents/parenting-quiz/
                                                                                          

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